hangin’ with the cool kids…

it’s interesting how you carry certain aspects of your childhood into adulthood. i’m a bit of a geek(i’m currently teaching myself to write basic php and javascript)–i used to be even more of one: i don’t think i wore a pair of jeans until high school. slacks, vests, button-down shirts, clip-on ties, glasses, braces, hair parted down the middle (i should find some pictures!); honors classes, academic decathlon, post-secondary option, phi beta kappa: that was me. though for some reason i never fell fully into the geek clique. i guess that partially had to do with the fact that i wasn’t a total introvert and that i still participated in sports. but probably more to do with the realization even then that cliques were just plain stupid. i ate lunch with the geeks, the burners, the popular girls, etc, and then the three or four other kids like me who never fit squarely into a stereotype.

last night was a bit of an eye-opener for me. i realized how much i still despise cliques as it became unfortunately clear how clique-y the cincinnati scene is. i went out with a couple of the “cool girls” and they totally rocked. great conversation, good energy, lots of laughs. still, the undercurrent of drama saturated the upscale bar and was with our crew the whole time. trivial text messages become major crises. abusive relationships tolerated in the name of “love”. stories of spite and revenge. and i’m thinking: you’re beautiful! you’re smart! you’re economically viable! transcend this clique-mindset and base drama and do something really amazing! interact with people on a deeper level! find a soul mate and not someone that enjoys pissing you off! you have the world at your fingertips and you’re worried about a text message?!

we need to be the next evolutionary step–a step forward–a step toward greater respect and civility. we need to get to know ourselves and be ourselves, and drop the facade and posturing and the fear and insecurity behind it. we need to open up to a more honest and consistent discourse on what it means to be a sentient being and part of a family, a community, a country, a belief system, humanity. we need to pursue wisdom, peace, and contentment rather than stuff, power, and status. we need to connect to all of humanity rather than just the narrow slice we see daily.  we need to work to raise humanity up as a whole so that everyone has an opportunity to contribute.

it starts easy enough: make a consistent effort to be good to one another…